Here’s an example of what I mean: I call this story ‘Sophie Gets Her Man’.
In one of my workshops there is an exercise where participants identify a large, overall life goal and undertake a process to gain clarity and specificity about it. We then identify the beliefs they need to integrate at the subconscious level to achieve this goal.
Sophie’s goal was a committed romantic relationship. Actually, what she really wanted, as she expressed it, was the man of her dreams. She diligently carried out the exercise and used the techniques for integrating new beliefs about meeting her dream man into her subconscious mind. Some of the beliefs she integrated were;
“All part of me are ready, willing and able to meet my dream man now”
“All part of me are ready, willing and able to unite with my soul mate now”
“I deserve to meet my soul mate now”
“It is natural for me to be with my soul mate now”
“All parts of me are ready willing and able to have a loving, passionate, fun, soul mate relationship now”
Within one month of taking my workshop, Sophie met her man. Her hobby is scuba diving, a new guy joined her diving club—and, as the saying goes, the rest is history.
But the story doesn’t end there. Two years later she was married and a little while later they had a beautiful baby girl. Was this meeting a coincidence? Or was Sophie now ready to recognise, meet and engage the man who turned out to be her ideal partner? I am convinced, as is she, that changing her subconscious beliefs made all the difference towards her realising her dream.
Here’s one of the reasons why: your subconscious will filter your experiences to make links and associations only to things that have been programmed into it as being relevant to you. Have you ever been at a party and been fully engaged in a conversation and from a distant part of the room you hear your name? Although you may have been fully engrossed in your conversation, your subconscious mind with its 40-million-bit-per-second information processor heard your name and brought it to your conscious awareness for you to decide whether you needed to take any action or not.
Replacing outdated, self-sabotaging beliefs and emotional reactions with new, self-supportive ones, will help you gain more clarity on what you really want and need in your life.
Your subconscious mind will, in effect, become a more efficient filter. The likelihood of achieving goals and dreams and creating the life you desire is astronomically higher when your subconscious is working with you, not against you!
